Thursday, September 10, 2009

On Tuesday of this week, I got a brain flash. I decided to keep a running list throughout the day of what I was actually doing. So much of the time, I beat the crap out of myself for the things I don't accomplish. It's funny how the human mind works, isn't it? Generally speaking, we focus in first on our negative attributes while the good things inside of us are screaming for a shred of recognition. I was really pleased with myself at the end of the day on Tuesday. I really had managed to accomplish quite a bit. I did the same thing yesterday but made a conscious effort to observe how much time was spent "doing things". Was there anything that I was avoiding? Was I spending to much time just keeping myself busy with "things to do"? I've been listening to Martha Beck and she has a method of looking at our tasks for the day and rating them on a scale of -10 to +10. When you find a negative rating, it's something that doesn't feel good to you at all. That's when you decide about the 3 B's: Bag it, barter it or better it. Example: you have to take out the trash, which you HATE doing. Do you bag it and decide to never take trash out again? Do you ask your mate to barter with you; maybe he/she would take out the trash in exchange for you doing something for them? Do you find a way to make trash removal a better experience? So, my task for myself now is to look at how I'm spending my time and looking at the negative things that I am avoiding. My intention is to get right on top of those unpleasant things and turn them around for myself. I truly believe that we all have the ability to turn around an unpleasant situation or task by changing the way we approach it. Living life with a positive spin is so much more fulfilling.


  1. I was just reading your blog entry and that felt good. But there are dishes to do and wash to finish. Those don't feel so good I guess. In Buddhism they say that one should just be in the moment, mindful of whatever it is we are doing. Whether it's something you enjoy or something you hate. Everything is impermanent. And with every moment is another opportunity to just start where we are and cultivate tolerance and compassion.
    And yes, we should try to use our time to good advantage but I think it's all in how we think of things and our intention.

    Something like that anyway. LOL

  2. I love this post...I am so going to implement the 3B's into my days!

  3. I love your post so inspiring! which is something that I needed today

    peace and hugs